Developing relationships is a huge topic, especially in today’s world of generational differences, cultural sensitivities, political divisions, and a general us-versus-them attitude between organizations, leadership, and frontline workers. It starts with how you onboard new employees and encompasses everything from conflict resolution to codes of conduct. While relationships often are overlooked or ignored, they may be the most influencing factor in the success of your team.
Let me tell you about an experience I had that infuriated me. It’s probably the angriest I have been in my professional life. A trainer was about to go into a crane certification preparation course. Right before he walked into the room, he looked at me and said, “None of these guys are going to pass. They’re all too stupid to do the math.” I’ll spare you the details, but I will tell you that quite a few of them passed. What’s important is how this exemplifies the value – or lack thereof – that leaders place on their teams.
It can be common for frontline leaders in our industry to shy away from any mention of words like “emotions,” “relationships” or “teammates,” but those are three of the most important words you should be embracing. Here are some other critical points about valuing your team and developing relationships:
Two Quick Quizzes
Here is a quick and hopefully easy quiz. Do you know the first and last name – not the nickname – of everyone on your team, their spouse’s name, their kids’ names and ages, one interesting fact about them and one of their hobbies? It’s pretty amazing how your perspective changes when you shift from seeing someone as a privileged and entitled 23-year-old brat with no skills to seeing that person as a 23-year-old father of three who is coaching his 5-year-old daughter’s tee-ball team. As your mindset starts to shift, it’s downright magical to realize how much more you begin to care about that person. You want him to go home safely and coach the tee-ball game. You want him to succeed and provide for his family. You care more about him. And, as with any of the “C’s,” when caring increases, so do competence, commitment, courage and credibility.
Here’s another quiz that’s a little bit more difficult. What motivates each member of your team? Who is task-oriented and who is more people-focused? Who likes to be very direct in conversations? Which team members are concerned with accuracy? Who is focused on long-term visions, and who is focused on short-term goals? It’s difficult to adapt to the preferences of others if you don’t know their preferences.
Developing effective relationships with your team takes time and effort, but that time and effort are more than worth it. Get to know each member of your team and lead them the way they prefer to be led.
Everyone is equal, yet no two people are the same. Apply that in your leadership. I’ll let John Maxwell close with this quote: “People rise and fall to meet your level of expectations for them. If you express skepticism and doubt in others, they will return your lack of confidence with mediocrity. But if you believe in them and expect them to do well, they will go the extra mile trying to do their best.” Remember, the types of relationships you have and the outcomes you get are your choice.
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Webinar on Valuing Your Team and Developing Relationships
July 17 at 3 p.m. Eastern
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